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In the 2020s, many young parents feel they cannot ask friends for help (friends are busy), but they ask relatives. However, the relative on the receiving end (the searcher of this keyword) feels taken advantage of. shinseki-no-ko-to-o-tomari-dakara
Because health is a legitimate, face-saving reason in Japan, the shinseki cannot argue. Alternatively, offer a compromise: "I cannot do otomari, but I can watch them from 1 PM to 7 PM." You are hosting the child because of a
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